Dear followers and fans, I so appreciate you coming around to hear what I have to say. Since there are a fair amount, I have a grave responsibility to write that which will uplift and help. I take it real seriously.
About a year ago I was in a lot of pain. My wife had died. I didn’t know if I could go on sometimes. It just hurt too bad. A friend of mine, who is a very great, famous recording artist who wishes to remain nameless has also known pain, lots of it. And she has conquered it. Her best tip to me was this:
Find something gorgeous, a flower, a mountain, a sunset, a song, and concentrate on it. Keep bringing your attention back to it, again and again, and the pain will start to ease. Works better than a drink or Valium. And no hangover. But most importantly: IT WORKS.
My other big tip learned, from those with more experience and street smarts, is this: When the pain comes, pick up that phone, right now, and call someone who is also having a lot of pain and trouble. If it feels draining, it’s because it IS draining–good energy out of you. Actually, that stimulates a brand new flow of good energy back into you. And more comes back than you give. If you keep yourself out of it, and refrain from throwing in your own woes, the return is ten to one. Every time!
Take away pain and yours will be eased. This cannot fail, has never failed and never will fail. Both of these remedies are within the abilities of even a person in so much pain they are ready to take leave of this world.
You are NEVER alone. The trick is to make sure no one else ever FEELs alone either.
Namaste and Angel Blessings
Dr. Todd–Life Coach, and self-proclaimed micro-philanthropist.
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From years of painful living I can tell you the only remedy I found was to stand with it, to be present to the pain, allowing it to flow freely from you. My grandmother always held wakes when someone she knew passed on, this included family, the wake was a celebration of the person’s life. More importantly each person had another to share with. I find these lessons very valuable in my healing journey.
Face the pain, acknowledge it exists, celebrate life, and most important remember that loneliness is a feeling, not a reality. Being alone is not possible, the Divine is always there.
Thank you Dr. Todd for sharing this part of your journey.
Peace be with You.
I was so sad to hear about your loss and pain. When you are grieving, as much as you know that there may be a reason and the pain will bring you growth and new awarenesses about yourself, we are all still human and pain hurts.
I also think that you don’t always have to uplift others when you are in pain. Sometimes by sharing your pain openly and honestly, you help others. Others who may think that you as an author of a book and with a daily connection to angels has it all and is at peace. Sharing the human part of your suffering may be part of the reason you are going through the pain. I don’t know.
Similar to picking up the phone to hear someone’s else trouble I have also found that actually just physically doing a nice act for someone else or helping someone out, or visiting someone lonely can help lift your mood.
When you feel pain, feel it, acknowledge it and your feelings about it and then figure how best to move on. All of which is advice I am sure you know and is probably easier to read than do.
Hang in there.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. In one sense, the pain never goes away completely, nor should it. But, Lord willing, it is transmuted so that you can again be thankful for life, for still being here. May you be comforted by those around you.